Kino

Kinesthetics (Kino) is the art of touching. And yes, it is an Art. Touching a woman in the wrong way can ruin everything you've built between the two of you. But, touching a woman the right way, at the right time, can spark attraction faster and stronger than almost anything else you can do. Kino is a powerful instrument if played correctly. But can be catastrophic if done wrong, or if ignored and not done at all.

Kino is the single most important tool I added to my repertiore that has given me the success with women that I wanted. I cannot underscore the importance of Kino in attracting women. For years I could approach a woman, and have deep, meaningful conversation. I could excite her senses. I could use the power of language to create attraction, but I was still hit-and-miss with most women because I was missing one single ingredient. After years of experience, I've learned one simple truth.

Kino is the difference between getting the girl and not getting the girl.

I had a roommate several years back that was a wonder with women. He would bring home a different girl to sleep with five nights out of the week. During this time, I tried to pick his brain and learn what he was doing that worked so well. Unfortunately, he wasn't good at articulating what he was doing. He was one of those guys that had great natural game, but didn't know the what or why behind it. There are several good nuggets of knowledge he did pass on, though. The most important being Kino. He didn't call it that, but that was what he was talking about. He told me I wasn't touching the girls, and he was right. I was timid about touching. Almost shy. Which is a great irony, because I was fearless with just about everything else in my life.

So I started touching women when I talked to them. A gentle hand on the shoulder when I wanted to make a point. Putting my hand in the small of their back when I was playful. At first I was REALLY BAD at doing this, and he made one clear comment. "What you did wasn't natural....It was creepy." That hit home hard. Creepy. No one had ever used that word to describe me. (At least to my face) So I learned the most important lesson about Kino. Be Natural. Don't be Creepy. You'll seem like a guy that's hiding something, or worse, a pervert.
This brings me to my next point. Good Kino is dependent on how she perceives the interaction. Is she threatened by you touching her? If the answer is yes, then you've done something wrong. Gauge her response when you touch her. This is important. If you're not gauging, then you're running blind, and likely to make a HUGE mistake somewhere. Kino should be flirty, innocent, intimate, almost sexual, warm and friendly. It should seem natural. How do you get to that 'Natural' state? You should do this so often with so many people you don't even think about it...then it becomes second nature. It just happens.

So when do you start in with the Kino? If you're talking to her, you should have already started Kino. When you introduce yourself, don't shake hands, Hug her. I usually throw a line like "I don't do hand-shakes....give me a hug." This initiates Kino from the begining, and she's already used to being touched by you, so later, when you put your hand in the small of her back, she doesn't feel threatened by you suddenly becoming touchy-feely. Sometimes it's not possible to go straight into Kino, but you should wait no longer than 2 minutes into the conversation. If you haven't touched her by then, it's too late. You've already been pegged as a shy guy.

There are lots of places to touch a woman that will be intimate, but not sexual. This is the goal you're aiming for. Intimate means a familiarity and trust between the two of you. If it comes across as sexual to early, she'll pull away. Some common things I like to do are brushing something out of her hair, taking my finger and running it along her hair line to her ear, touching the back of her neck, in between her fingers, the inside of her elbows, or the top of her knee. (If she's sitting down next to you) Her hips are also an intimate zone that most women like when a man touches them there. Just Calibrate what you're doing to the situation.

Kino is the sort of thing that will make a HUGE difference in the way you interact with women. Like I said earlier, Kino is the difference between getting the girl, and not getting the girl. It also takes a while to master, especially if you don't do it now. If you're learning, be prepared to be shot down quite a bit. But also be prepared to watch in amazement as the women warm up to you, and actually start touching you back. That's when you know you've got it. Just remember, gauge her response, and act accordingly.

-Blade