Pickup is not about Women. It's about building yourself into a better, more powerful, more attractive person. Do this, and the women will flock to you. "If you build it, She will come."
So how do you build yourself into a better person? The most important thing to understand, is that this will not happen overnight. It is a long process, a constant struggle, and one that you will never truly complete. You can work at this your entire life and still have room for improvement.
When first got into Pickup, it was about trying to get as many women into bed as possible. I wanted to get laid. Although that goal has come true, I realized very shortly that sex wasn't what I REALLY wanted. It was nice to have, but what gave me strength was the skills I gained while trying to pickup women. These skills transfer over to so many other parts of my life.
Work, Play, Partying, being social with others, and understanding group dynamics all improved my quality of life. And these things, more than learning "Pickup", have helped me actually meet and attract the type of women that I want. I improved other areas of my life. I made myself into a more rounded and powerful person. I can go into any type of social situation and be comfortable, calm, and commanding. It gives me an inner strength that can't be taken away. These are lifelong skills that I'm glad I have.
There was a time in my life when I poured all my energy into computers. I was a total geek. I lived and breathed programming, web-pages, the internet, and just computer skills in general. I was very successful at what I did. I had a high-paying job, made lots of money, but something was missing. I wasn't interacting with people. I just sat in front of a computer for 12 hours a day. So although I had spent enormous time and effort in my professional life, other areas suffered.
I made lots of money, but women aren't attracted to money. (It helps, but money alone will not do it.) I wasn't happy with my life, so I changed.
Skip forward a few years. I got into pickup, and I poured all my energy into this new lifestyle. I read everything I could get my hands on. I watched DVDs. I listened to Audio Seminars. I went out almost every night (When I wasn't studying pickup). The result? I became very good at initial conversation, and attraction. But I couldn't keep a woman for more than a week. I was suffering from the same problem as the computers. I wasn't well rounded. I put all my energy and resources into ONE thing. It is very easy to get caught up in the world of pickup and not work on other areas. This is a fatal mistake a lot guys out there are making. Women are not attracted to a good conversationalist. (It helps, but like money, this alone will not do it.) Again, I wasn't happy with my life. I needed to change again.
What do I do now? I have a LIFE. I LIVE everyday to its fullest. I go out with friends, I work, I play, I party. I do something different all the time. I improve myself at every opportunity. I don't concentrate on one thing at the expense of everything else in my life. Pickup is not about women. Pickup is about improving yourself in all areas of your life. When that happens, the women will be waiting in line just to be near you and the success that follows you wherever you go. Improve yourself, find your purpose in life, and follow that path!
The rest will fall into place.
-Blade
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Thursday, February 22, 2007
Power
Ever heard a woman say "I wish I could find a nice guy to date."? Yet, they don't date nice guys, they always go for the 'Bad Boys' that walk all over them? There are literally millions of 'Nice guys' out there that would absolutely die to be able to date the blonde bombshell with big boobs. So why aren't the ladies dating the nice guys? There are several reasons for this:
1. Nice guys are exactly that. Nice. They don't want to upset anyone or step on any toes. They don't want to get the snot beaten out of them, so they become nice, shy, timid males that are not a threat to the Alpha Males around them. "No, I'm not hitting on your girl, so please don't beat me up!" This is a defense mechanism so that the social groups will accept them. Women can SMELL when a man is like this. They see it in the way you stand, the way you talk to others, and the way they are timid when it comes to talking to a beautiful woman. Women can sense that you aren't being honest, that you are hiding something. What are you hiding? The fact that you want her. She already KNOWS this, but you still try to hide it from her. That's Dishonest.
2. Nice guys may know what they want, but are too afraid to go and take it. Women want a MAN. A man knows what he wants and goes after it. If he doesn't, then he's not a man, he's a 'Nice Guy'. Be BOLD. Take a chance. Be Alpha. Do something that shows you're not afraid. Tell her she's Sexy. (Women want to hear this more than anything!) Nice guys don't do this, and where do they always end up? The "Friend Zone".
3. Nice guys put the woman on a higher social status than themselves. They keep women up on these ridiculously high pedestals, looking up, admiring them. Women don't want to have to tell a guy it's ok to chase them. Then the guys aren't chasing the women, the women are chasing the guys, and nothing turns a woman off faster. Women WANT to be taken. They want to be swept off their feet. It's part of the prince-charming, Knight-in-shining-armor fantasy. What do those guys do? They TAKE the woman. They do NOT attempt to 'buy' her love with gifts or flowers or chocolates. They just Dominate.
4. Nice guys are NOT alpha. Men are programmed to go after young, fertile females. It increases the chances of having offspring that will be strong and healthy. Women are programmed the same way to go after the males with high social status. It increases the chances that their offspring will make it. Alpha males are the pack leaders. Nice guys are that way because they are trying to fit into the social circle in a place BEHIND the pack leader. Lead the men, and the women will follow. Remember: Social Status.
What is High social status? There are several things that fall into this category. Ten thousand years ago, it was the strong men that could protect the pack (and the women) from the saber-tooth tiger. Big Muscles and a strong vitality were most important. But today, things have changed. There are no Saber-tooth Tigers running around eating the weak, sickly people. Big Muscles aren't as important anymore. (They still play a part, but VERY little) There soon came a point where the SMART guy that knew how to make tools and fire became the leader. Brains counted more than Brawn. But those days quickly passed as well.
Skip forward to modern times. What defines High status today? One simple word: POWER.
Let me say that again to make sure you've got it:
POWER
Today, there are many different kinds of power, which is why 'Nice guys' get confused. Some kinds are the same as it was thousands of years ago. Brute strength. Brains. But how about Money? Bill Gates has High Social status. Not because he's strong, but because he's rich. That is a form of Power. So Nice guys think "If I'm rich, women will want me." This is partially true. I know tons of guys that make A$$loads of money, but still can't attract a woman. What about Bill Clinton? He's not rich or strong, but still attracts women because of his high social status. He was the leader of the free world. Leaders have POWER.
There is also another kind of Power. One that comes from inside, that tells the world "Don't Fuck with me." It's in the way you stand, the way you talk, the way you present yourself to the world. Part of it is Confidence. Part of it is Internal Fortitude, Moral strength, Values, Ideals, the physical attributes we've discussed, and yes, Money. It's the whole package. You can make do without several of these, as long as you have others in abundance. But it's almost impossible to attract a woman with just one of these things. You simply don't have enough POWER.
So what makes a nice guy? Simply put: Lack of POWER. If you're a nice guy, you need to work on giving yourself power in whatever form you are lacking. Some guys need to work out and be stronger. Some guys need more money. Some guys need education. MOST guys need to work on the inner power. It's the difference between being the social center and being a chump. Henry Kissinger, President Nixon's National Security Advisor once said "Power is the Ultimate Aphrodesiac." How absolutely True.
1. Nice guys are exactly that. Nice. They don't want to upset anyone or step on any toes. They don't want to get the snot beaten out of them, so they become nice, shy, timid males that are not a threat to the Alpha Males around them. "No, I'm not hitting on your girl, so please don't beat me up!" This is a defense mechanism so that the social groups will accept them. Women can SMELL when a man is like this. They see it in the way you stand, the way you talk to others, and the way they are timid when it comes to talking to a beautiful woman. Women can sense that you aren't being honest, that you are hiding something. What are you hiding? The fact that you want her. She already KNOWS this, but you still try to hide it from her. That's Dishonest.
2. Nice guys may know what they want, but are too afraid to go and take it. Women want a MAN. A man knows what he wants and goes after it. If he doesn't, then he's not a man, he's a 'Nice Guy'. Be BOLD. Take a chance. Be Alpha. Do something that shows you're not afraid. Tell her she's Sexy. (Women want to hear this more than anything!) Nice guys don't do this, and where do they always end up? The "Friend Zone".
3. Nice guys put the woman on a higher social status than themselves. They keep women up on these ridiculously high pedestals, looking up, admiring them. Women don't want to have to tell a guy it's ok to chase them. Then the guys aren't chasing the women, the women are chasing the guys, and nothing turns a woman off faster. Women WANT to be taken. They want to be swept off their feet. It's part of the prince-charming, Knight-in-shining-armor fantasy. What do those guys do? They TAKE the woman. They do NOT attempt to 'buy' her love with gifts or flowers or chocolates. They just Dominate.
4. Nice guys are NOT alpha. Men are programmed to go after young, fertile females. It increases the chances of having offspring that will be strong and healthy. Women are programmed the same way to go after the males with high social status. It increases the chances that their offspring will make it. Alpha males are the pack leaders. Nice guys are that way because they are trying to fit into the social circle in a place BEHIND the pack leader. Lead the men, and the women will follow. Remember: Social Status.
What is High social status? There are several things that fall into this category. Ten thousand years ago, it was the strong men that could protect the pack (and the women) from the saber-tooth tiger. Big Muscles and a strong vitality were most important. But today, things have changed. There are no Saber-tooth Tigers running around eating the weak, sickly people. Big Muscles aren't as important anymore. (They still play a part, but VERY little) There soon came a point where the SMART guy that knew how to make tools and fire became the leader. Brains counted more than Brawn. But those days quickly passed as well.
Skip forward to modern times. What defines High status today? One simple word: POWER.
Let me say that again to make sure you've got it:
POWER
Today, there are many different kinds of power, which is why 'Nice guys' get confused. Some kinds are the same as it was thousands of years ago. Brute strength. Brains. But how about Money? Bill Gates has High Social status. Not because he's strong, but because he's rich. That is a form of Power. So Nice guys think "If I'm rich, women will want me." This is partially true. I know tons of guys that make A$$loads of money, but still can't attract a woman. What about Bill Clinton? He's not rich or strong, but still attracts women because of his high social status. He was the leader of the free world. Leaders have POWER.
There is also another kind of Power. One that comes from inside, that tells the world "Don't Fuck with me." It's in the way you stand, the way you talk, the way you present yourself to the world. Part of it is Confidence. Part of it is Internal Fortitude, Moral strength, Values, Ideals, the physical attributes we've discussed, and yes, Money. It's the whole package. You can make do without several of these, as long as you have others in abundance. But it's almost impossible to attract a woman with just one of these things. You simply don't have enough POWER.
So what makes a nice guy? Simply put: Lack of POWER. If you're a nice guy, you need to work on giving yourself power in whatever form you are lacking. Some guys need to work out and be stronger. Some guys need more money. Some guys need education. MOST guys need to work on the inner power. It's the difference between being the social center and being a chump. Henry Kissinger, President Nixon's National Security Advisor once said "Power is the Ultimate Aphrodesiac." How absolutely True.
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