Pickup is not about Women

Pickup is not about Women. It's about building yourself into a better, more powerful, more attractive person. Do this, and the women will flock to you. "If you build it, She will come."

So how do you build yourself into a better person? The most important thing to understand, is that this will not happen overnight. It is a long process, a constant struggle, and one that you will never truly complete. You can work at this your entire life and still have room for improvement.

When first got into Pickup, it was about trying to get as many women into bed as possible. I wanted to get laid. Although that goal has come true, I realized very shortly that sex wasn't what I REALLY wanted. It was nice to have, but what gave me strength was the skills I gained while trying to pickup women. These skills transfer over to so many other parts of my life.
Work, Play, Partying, being social with others, and understanding group dynamics all improved my quality of life. And these things, more than learning "Pickup", have helped me actually meet and attract the type of women that I want. I improved other areas of my life. I made myself into a more rounded and powerful person. I can go into any type of social situation and be comfortable, calm, and commanding. It gives me an inner strength that can't be taken away. These are lifelong skills that I'm glad I have.

There was a time in my life when I poured all my energy into computers. I was a total geek. I lived and breathed programming, web-pages, the internet, and just computer skills in general. I was very successful at what I did. I had a high-paying job, made lots of money, but something was missing. I wasn't interacting with people. I just sat in front of a computer for 12 hours a day. So although I had spent enormous time and effort in my professional life, other areas suffered.
I made lots of money, but women aren't attracted to money. (It helps, but money alone will not do it.) I wasn't happy with my life, so I changed.

Skip forward a few years. I got into pickup, and I poured all my energy into this new lifestyle. I read everything I could get my hands on. I watched DVDs. I listened to Audio Seminars. I went out almost every night (When I wasn't studying pickup). The result? I became very good at initial conversation, and attraction. But I couldn't keep a woman for more than a week. I was suffering from the same problem as the computers. I wasn't well rounded. I put all my energy and resources into ONE thing. It is very easy to get caught up in the world of pickup and not work on other areas. This is a fatal mistake a lot guys out there are making. Women are not attracted to a good conversationalist. (It helps, but like money, this alone will not do it.) Again, I wasn't happy with my life. I needed to change again.

What do I do now? I have a LIFE. I LIVE everyday to its fullest. I go out with friends, I work, I play, I party. I do something different all the time. I improve myself at every opportunity. I don't concentrate on one thing at the expense of everything else in my life. Pickup is not about women. Pickup is about improving yourself in all areas of your life. When that happens, the women will be waiting in line just to be near you and the success that follows you wherever you go. Improve yourself, find your purpose in life, and follow that path!
The rest will fall into place.

-Blade