The Power Position

Where you stand in a group can be seen by WHERE you stand in the group. Positioning yourself is one of those very important, yet often overlooked body language things. Women can SEE a guy that has the alpha traits in the way they stand, carry themselves, sit, walk, and yes, position themselves in the group. It's on a subconscious level, but yet a woman can look at these things and say "He's got it, but that guy doesn't." Positioning is a small, but important part of that.

What you want to do is put yourself in the "Power Position". All groups of all sizes have a spot that is seen as the "Center" of attention. (Although it's not always AT the center) Example: If there are two women at a bar, you want to place yourself between them and the bar, with your back to the bar, and assume the "Alpha stance" If you come up behind the ladies and they don't want to talk, all they have to do is turn around, and you've been cut out! But, if you are between them and the bar, if they don't want to talk, they have to LEAVE the bar, and they lose the power position.

I spent some time in several clubs over the last weekend and noticed a few things about the dance floor. That's what prompted this thread. There is also a Power Position on the dance floor. Let's take a group of 4 ladies dancing together. Most likely, they've all come out together for a night on the town. Without guys around for protection, they are forced to protect each other. How do they do that? By keeping a nice, tight-nit, closed circle, dancing with each other. This makes it VERY difficult for a guy to approach. He must come up from BEHIND one of the women, and in doing so is kept on the outside of the circle. If one of the girls (Especially the one he's dancing with) doesn't talk to him, he's shut out. He'll leave shortly. Women KNOW this. It's part of the protection they give one another.

You can avoid this by doing several things. First, after 1 song of dancing, you need to turn her around. Everyone I saw that tried to do this by putting his hands on her hips was shot down. The ones that were successful were guys that turned the lady around by touching her elbows. Once she's around, it tends to break up the group. It doesn't always happen, but in short order, one of the girls has no partner to dance with and provide cover. As the group starts to break up, you need to very deftly (and quickly) slide into the center of the group. Speed is important here. The "Gap" in the group will only open for about 10-15 seconds before it closes again. The Center is the power position. It's where you want to be. Once you're there, it's almost impossible for them to break you out without them leaving. (Just like at the bar)

While you're in the middle, you need to be sure to dance with EVERY girl in the group. Don't exclude anyone, or girlfriend cockblocking will ensue. (They'll drag off the girl your dancing with) Again, it's part of the protection they give each other. But by making sure you're giving everyone a little attention and not concentrating on one girl, they won't feel as exposed or threatened. Talking is almost impossible on the dance floor beyond a few words. Dont' worry about talking. Let your dancing speak for you. At some point ONE of the girls will start making more overt IOI's and become the chaser. From there, just isolate and do your thing.

There is ALWAYS a power position in any group. Knowing where that is and maneuvering yourself to be in that position will increase your success with women. (And the guys if it's a mixed group) More on this subject later as I find out and test things in the field....

-Blade